DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.18203/2394-6040.ijcmph20171506

Factors involving extramarital affairs among married adults in Bangladesh

Yasmin Jahan, Abu Sayeed Chowdhury, S. M. Atiqur Rahman, Sajeda Chowdhury, Zara Khair, K. A. T. M. Ehsanul Huq, Md Moshiur Rahman

Abstract


Extramarital affairs have become a common occurrence in modern society. Many studies have pointed to the lack of variety in a relationship as a contributing factor related to divorce and extramarital affairs. This study wants to explore the reasons behind developing the extramarital affair in married adults. The study is based upon the information gathered through scanning newspapers, journals, books, and browsing the Internet and all related papers which were published from 1980 to 2016. However, there is a limited data on the specific topic. After reviewing literatures, we found some common factors that might be responsible for extramarital affairs. Based on that we have made some recommendations for lowering this devastating situation. From this study, we expect that the stakeholders and policy makers can develop some new thoughts and strategies to let down this overwhelming condition.

 


Keywords


Extramarital affair, Married adults, Bangladesh

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